It has always been difficult for me to compliment myself. (I am also really bad at fully accepting compliments from others.) That is primarily due to low self-esteem, which in my opinion is due to the many cognitive distortions I’ve been plagued with for the majority of my life. In the hospital we had a session about Healing and Recovery and we focused on positive affirmations- things that you can tell yourself about yourself to life your mood and remind yourself that you are “worth it”.
I’ve heard of positive affirmations before, and always shrugged them off. Basically, I thought that these were all things like “I’m awesome!” and then the idea is that if you tell yourself enough times that you are awesome you will start to believe it. Instead, we focused on genuine positive affirmations- statements that are actually true about yourself.
It was difficult, but with the help of a worksheet I was able to make a list of positive affirmations that I can believe in and use to help myself when I am feeling awful. Some of them are rather clunky as the list is going to always be a work in progress- but it’s a good start. I am trying to come up with more that do not have to do with how other people feel about me, but rather reinforce the good things I do think about myself.
Nikki’s Positive Affirmations
1. People often compliment me about my emotional strength.
2. I have a natural talent for writing- specifically journaling.
3. My favorite place is by the water because it is very calming.
4. I have been told that I have pretty eyes.
5. The color green looks great on me.
6. I do improv comedy very well.
7. I consider myself a good roommate.
8. I like the way I feel about myself when I can teach someone something new.
9. My family and friends love me.
10. What I really enjoy most is reading (at the moment, reading non-fiction essays).
11. I look good when I smile.
12. My goals for the future are to have a family.
13. One of the many positive traits I have is my ability to empathize.
14. My friends respect me because I always take their feelings into account.
15. I know that I will be successful in life because I will continue to learn as much as I can and improve myself and my relationships with others.